“Be quick to listen, and slow to respond”– J.W.(Momma Love)
That quote is one of many great words’ of advice my mother has ever given me. She has been repeatedly telling me this quote since I was a child, but of course like any other kid I just simply brushed it off and let it go through one ear and out the other. All this time, I was not realizing my girl was dropping jewels on me. Now that I’m older, I now take those words of wisdom into consideration more than ever. I have the hardest time responding to something or someone, because I rather react to it (I’m from New York though, so what do you expect? The New York in me is like “They think you’re pussy, show them you’re not!”). And, I know I am not the only person dealing with this issue, it is very common in people of all ages. Many people, including myself, have an issue with separating and controlling their personal emotions from situations. Yet, if you actually took the time to LISTEN and then RESPOND, I promise you 99.9% of the time, the solution would be way better.
Some individuals rather react to a situation rather then respond to it which makes perfect sense right? If someone says or does anything to offend you, your natural reflex is to react aggressively with words or actions .. Right? Well, if you agreed with me, then we both need to change our mentality. Like the saying goes, “not every action deserves an reaction”. When you’re in the heat of moment, you have to listen rather than hear what’s going on. You ever notice that soon as something occurs, people are so quick to tell someone off about how they feel? It all starts with the neck jerk and “ok firsttttttt of all..” but what does that resolve? Seriously think about it for a few seconds, after you curse the person out, what exactly did you fix? Nothing but, your temper tantrum. You can’t fight fire with fire, it resolves nothing.
So, next time before responding to anyone try this: PAUSE. THINK. And then, RESPOND.
Thinking is the most important part of responding properly, because your response has to be calm, considerate and mindful not to cause a bigger reaction. Let the situation die down some before responding, so your response is not reflected off of your emotions.
Every time a person reacts to a situation, they’re doing nothing but wasting energy that they can be putting else where. And, throwing more fuel to the fire. This life lesson comes with time, maturity and experiences so it’s okay if you’re not exactly there yet. Do understand though, everyone and everything does not deserve that energy you’re releasing. Stop letting people take advantage of controlling your emotions with just words. Yes, I know words cut deeper than a scalpel sometimes, especially when it’s from someone you really care for. And if you don’t have an response, sometimes silence is the best answer. Sometimes saying nothing is actually saying something.Yet, always remember this, communication is key to everything, and the most important part of communication is LISTENING.
Until next ..