I have one question, is closure necessary?
The year is coming to an end, and everyone has experienced situations where they have realized someone was either here for a reason or season. Some relationships are a lesson to help you grow in all aspects of life. Others might have been a waste of time and energy, that gave you an eye opener to focus more on yourself. Though the season has ended, some carry the burden of uncertainty or guilt. Many people decide to seek clarity after a chapter in life comes to an end, yet, it’s for you to determine if it’s even worth seeking. You might wonder if the emotions that were established in the relationship was real and genuine. Always remember when seeking closure, be open minded and understanding. Do not go with intentions thinking everything is going to work out like the scenario you replayed in your mind a million times before arriving. This is life, nothing ever goes as planned.
To answer my own question, no. Closure is not ALWAYS necessary. Yet, it does vary depending on how the relationship ended. If things ended on mutual or good terms, no closure is needed because you basically said your peace already. Might even be a possibly for reconciliation, of course after distance and growth. Extinguish all bad blood, and build any bridges if it’s worth building. If the end of the relationship resulted from cheating, stealing, fraud or etc. surprisingly closure isn’t necessary either. Why? The truth hurts, especially from the person who’s caused the pain. No matter how much time could past, no one is ready to hear the truth and actually take it. Also, it’s an selfish act. You’re disturbing the peace of the other person by unloading emotions they either forgotten or trying to forget. It’s unfair.
If you believe closure is necessary, just know it takes time. It’s not something that should occur the first few months after the break up. About six months to a year, in my opinion is appropriate. It’s essential that you’ve both respectfully gave each other time and space. Especially if your actions were solely the reason(s) that led to the break up. Please do not use closure as a way to rebuild that relationship either. This is the last sentence of the chapter, no need to continue a story that has already come to an end. All things come to end, that’s why you always have to appreciate everything when it’s present. Even if the closure led to restarting the friendship that was already established, allow the universe to work it’s magic and enjoy the ride life has in store for you. If the love and bond was real, the person will always return. If not now, most definitely later.
Do you agree? If not, comment why. I would love hear you’re response.
Until next time
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